What you doing for New Years Eve?

[Spatial]

Thank you everyone. Such kind words mean a lot right now. Just wish I knew what to say and do to make it all better for my poor Dad.

Sorry if I've brought this thread down.

[teddymeow]

Mrs Teddy and I send our deepest sympathies to you Spatial, there's not much else I can think of to say.

[MatWoods]

Thank you everyone. Such kind words mean a lot right now. Just wish I knew what to say and do to make it all better for my poor Dad.

Sorry if I've brought this thread down.

You have definitely not brought this thread down, many a time this place is more than just a games forum.

Just be there for your Dad, that is the best thing you can do. You will both help each other through this difficult time. There is no 'exact' way of dealing with something like this as every family and relationship is different but your support and presence can make a big difference.

Take care and do not hesitate to post here if you feel like it, there are a lot of people who are willing to listen and I am sure you are in our thoughts tonight.

[markpsych]

So sorry Spatial....condolences to you and your family....be strong

[NW2013]

That's absolutely terrible Spatial and must be especially so for your Dad. Our thoughts are with you and your family.

[Spatial]

Oh God, this is the most horrible thing ever.

My poor dad is heartbroken. He's sits there forlornly staring out the window and every now and then he lets out this long, deep sigh which sounds like someone who's had their soul ripped out. It's the most heartbreaking thing ever. The family are all around him and we're all trying to be strong (not only for him but for each other) but each one of us is absolutely devastated.

Because of the time of year we won't know until at least next week how she died (although I've got a pretty good idea what it was - I suspect that it was DVT). The burial probably won't be arranged until the week after.

I lost it this morning when I saw the gift wallet she'd given me and the other half for Xmas this year and saw how much money was in there. I had been so busy doling out the presents myself on Xmas day that I didn't get a chance to actually say thank you to her for it. So many things left unsaid and now I'll never get the chance.

God I would give anything to have her back, even for just half an hour, to tell her how much I love her and how I'll miss her. I'm sure she knew that but just to say it that once last time...

I mean what I said earlier in this thread. Anyone reading this, if there's someone out there, a parent or loved one or whatever, you all better make damn sure you tell them you love them whenever you get the chance.

[James Mc Fadden]

I'm so so sorry to hear of you're sad news Spatial. Thoughts and prayers are with you and you're family. Life is so unfair sometimes. I don't know what else to say. I feel for you.

[k0pp0]

Spats, just spill whatever you need to on here mate - it's part of the process, and really sorry for your loss, keep your chin up.

[Mayhem]

Late to the party but really sorry to hear that Spatial. So sorry. My gran died just before Xmas about a decade ago and it ripped the heart out of my parents and brother for weeks afterwards. My sympathies, because I know pretty well what you are going through

[stepp]

Well this year I'll be doing nothing except crying my heart out.

Got woken this morning by a phone call from my dad to tell me that he'd just found my mum dead in bed.

Totally unexpected and the family is gutted. I only spoke to her on the phone yesterday and told her that I'd see her tonight for a small New Years Eve get together. I still can't take it in as she wasn't even ill and I miss her so much already.

So anyone reading this thread, whether you're doing anything or not, give a loved one a ring and tell them that you love them. Because right now I'd give anything in the world to be able to say it to my mum one last time.

Oh man, had a few beers tonight and that really touched me, not an emotional person but that has really hit home.

All the best to you and you family mate.

[Anpanman]

Really sorry to hear about your loss Spatial, been there so I know a little of what you are going through.

I don't care how hard anyone thinks he is, deep down we are all mummy's boys.

Gutted for you.

[Brats]

This was not what I was expecting to read .

So sorry Spatial. I'll take your advice. Just take care of yourself and your family.

[importaku]

It certainly puts my problems in perspective, so sorry to hear of your loss Spatial, i can't begin to imagine how horrible it is for you right now.

Hope everything works out for you.

[tom-nook]

I'm so sorry to hear your news Spatial. I really feel for you mate.

I lost my Dad earlier this year a couple of months after he was diagnosed with cancer. It was hard enough to get my head round his diagnosis (he was fighting fit at the time) but this must be much harder to comprehend.

Take care of yourself & very best wishes to you & your family.

[Darwock]

Don't lose that legendary sense of humour mate.