First Dates

[Supergoal]

This could be considered looking for advice, or just a general observation of one's own habits.

I just came back from a first date with a lovely lady I had only previously met online. Before the date, before meeting, I was pretty calm and looking forward to the event, feeling fairly confident.

So there I was waiting at the train station, it was very busy and I wasn't quite sure what she looked like since we've been really busy and haven't talked all that much online. As I saw her walking towards me (she recognised me first) I looked up and boom! She was so damn pretty! But then, at that point as always bloody happens, I went all red like a baboon's arse and became all nervous. Then I'm way too overly self-conscious of my appearance...
It seemed to go fine, but I couldn't help thinking on the way home why do I always blow up when I meet someone nice.
Perhaps I expect too much? Maybe I just don't understand how to date?
Sounds silly doesn't it. But I recently became single again for the first time in 9 years, and to be honest, I haven't a clue what to do..

[Dirty Sanchez]

Sounds like you are doing just fine. Being nervous is nothing to be ashamed of, this is real life, not the movies. It's the real things that make it worthwhile, yes you'll feel sick, yes you'll worry about every aspect of the date. Does it matter? If you get a second date things will be easier next time and give you an opportunity to say you were nervous, a vulnerable opener.

[nakamura]

Well I have always been pretty confident even though I am not particularly good looking.
A good tactic mind when I first dated my wife was to convince myself I did not actually really fancy her. We had a really great time and it was comfortable all night. It helped that I was interested in Japan and she had not met any english people like that despite a long time in the UK.
I find treating a date like a mate so to speak works. Just go out to chat and have fun. Dont think of any possible future happenings and then there is no pressure applied to perform so to speak.
Just chill, be yourself and if she likes you then bingo.

[Spatial]

Just chill, be yourself and if she likes you then bingo.

Playing Bingo's a bit old fashioned isn't it?



Going red is nothing to be ashamed of (ho-ho!). Some women find it quite cute when a guy gets flustered like that (it's the Hugh Grant effect - and not the part about finding a cheap hooker and getting caught with your pants down).

I know I find it quite cute when I get a girl to blush - there's one in work who I've got in down to a fine art with. I only have to give her a cheeky grin these days and she turns the colour of a beetroot and has to rush off

[Supergoal]

Playing Bingo's a old fashioned isn't it?



Going red is nothing to be ashamed of (ho-ho!). Some women find it quite cute when a guy gets flustered like that (it's the Hugh Grant effect - and not the part about finding a cheap hooker and getting caught with your pants down).

I know I find it quite cute when I get a girl to blush - there's one in work who I've got in down to a fine art with. I only have to give her a cheeky grin these days and she turns the colour of a beetroot and has to rush off

That's nice man, but my type of red looks like a drunk homeless person. I'm a bit of a blusher when it comes to the ladies. At all the wrong times!

[Colin]

Well, when meeting someone new i don't even like to call it a date, and i say that to the girl. Just meet up as friends and see how it goes, it saves any undue pressure on either of you. Then if you go out and click, as previously mentioned, B....I....N....G....O!!

[charlesr]

Firstly, nice one for finding a hot chick
Second, the nerves only go away with experience. Since you have been off the game for 9 years (like me), it'll be ages before you regain your cool Just go with it.

[nakamura]

Playing Bingo's a old fashioned isn't it?

[Asholay]

Acting nervous just shows you have an interest or worry about how something turns out? Which is surely a good thing for the person who's making you nervous!

Plus how boring would it be to be completely void of any nerves - wouldn't it take away most of the edge??

[Extra Terrestrial]

Plus how boring would it be to be completely void of any nerves - wouldn't it take away most of the edge?

I was just about to say something along the lines of that.

Whatever happens - as long as you show interest, which you clearly do despite your nerves - just go along with it and have fun.

Make her laugh, smile and look at her into eyes - woman especially like that - then you will soon relax and enjoy each others company.

[EvilBoris]

Just don't make my fatal first date mistake; getting locked in the zoo.

[Extra Terrestrial]

Just don't make my fatal first date mistake; getting locked in the zoo.

That must be a story worth telling us!

[EvilBoris]

Went on a first date to Twycross Zoo had a fun time in the zoo then sat in the carpark and had a picnic (it was raining).
Being sat in a static car , talking and eating meant it had steamed up (I know how it sounds) we were having too much fun to notice that all the cars had left.
And when I came to drive off, it was pitch black and the big metal gates had closed. We got out and walking back into the Zoo to find some staff, it was pissing it down, was pitch black and there was no light apart from the eery glow from the heaters in the animals cages.

No staff to be found and no contact numbers anywhere, so I had to ring the local police station (bless my Iphone) but got transfered around several different departments telling them each time Iwas locked in a Zoo only for them then to tell me that their constabulary didn't cover Twycross.

After going through the same thing again with another station and waiting for 30 minutes, a very apologetic Zoo Keeper appeared behind my car and let me out.

It's a funny story and definately the best first date I've ever had. It'll be a year on Sunday that this happened and me and the lovely girl I was with will be going to the Zoo again this Sunday to celebrate our 1 Year Zooversary.

[Extra Terrestrial]

It's a funny story and definately the best first date I've ever had. It'll be a year on Sunday that this happened and me and the lovely girl I was with will be going to the Zoo again this Sunday to celebrate our 1 Year Zooversary.

Aawww!

[Dirty Sanchez]

Aawww!

Awww too.

I used to live within 15 miles of Twycross, many many happy memories of that zoo. Love going back.