The 'how to get over a break up thread'

[darkangel]

My girlfriend broke up with me last night. Eurk!

So how do you guys get over a break up? I generally cut my ex's out of my life, and suppress my hurt by playing good old computer games and watching loads of movies. Thank God for escapism!

Would anyone else like to share?

[toythatkills]

We all share, check this out - http://www.bordersdown.net/showthrea...or-Indifferent.

But yeah, my general strategy is "no more contact," which also includes no checking their Facebooks and twitters and all that stuff.

[darkangel]

Your right about FB et al, it is too hard to see them come up on a news feed or what ever and then just look through their photos. It's self torture. My ex in short said she had relationship issues which is fair enough but so bloody frustrating!

[kryss]

Cut contact is always what I do...Or happens anyway.

"You're ***king your photographer? Nice." *sarcastic clapping*

I'm going over to the relationship thread again.

[Charlie]

Best way to get over a break up, or indeed any difficult experience, I find is to analyse what happened and then take the positives onboard and shed the negatives. That's almost always easier said than done, I realise, but every cloud has a silver lining and everything happens for a reason. I'm not keen on escapism personally, believing the best way to tackle any ill experience is to reflect on it fully, meet it square in the face, understand it, learn from it, and then move on, but that's just me and, I suspect, something that comes with age. But then I've never really had a bad break up, and even when it was me being dumped, or the painful seperation from my wife, it was always on good terms and I had no problem genuinely wishing them good fortune for the future. Not sure I'd feel so kind towards an ex had one of them ****ed me over in some way, say by cheating on me or just being a real bitch, but thankfully none of them to date have been like that.

But yeah, learning from experiences is the best way to deal with them. Even if it doesn't make you feel better, you're better equipped to avoid a repetition.

[EvilBoris]

I definately agree with the no contact method.
Do your best to put her out of your mind for the time being and with enough time maybe you'll realise that maybe things were never going to work out and that you are better off apart

[Mr Ono]

Make sure you both have no bitterness stored away and just move on.

No FB, Skype etc. It may be worth dropping an email to say why you are unfriending her etc so that there is no misunderstanding. It hurts but time is a good healer.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-w2q88fL5ag&feature=player_embedded

[Charlie]

The trouble with the no contact method is as well as losing your partner you also lose a friend (if they were never a friend to begin with then you were definitely with the wrong person anyway), where as if you keep contact you can remain friends, hang out occasionally and still have a laugh. Even the occasional f*ck.

[Stoppy2000]

The trouble with the no contact method is as well as losing your partner you also lose a friend (if they were never a friend to begin with then you were definitely with the wrong person anyway), where as if you keep contact you can remain friends, hang out occasionally and still have a laugh. Even the occasional f*ck.

This way leads to more problems than its worth. Besides who wants to be friends with girls, they smell.

[Neon Ignition]

Just get completely shut, trying to keep them in your life somehow just means you'll end up having to watch them end up with someone else which will hurt you twice as much.

[nakamura]

Personally I think ignoring the ex is often part of the problem. It delays acceptance of them leaving you/being with someone else etc. To see it happen may hurt but it could help with closure.

The biggest thing for me was to learn to be happy alone and to be happy within yourself. After my last gf I just had so much fun it was inreal. I also learned to be happy in my own company which helped a great deal. I bounced from one gf to another in those years and alone time made it all better going into my next gf and now wife.

[teddymeow]

Indeed. Spend some time alone, catch up with friends who you may have reduced contact with and just chill out.

Then, hook up with one of her friends and be happy. Worked for me!

[Baseley09]

100% delete all social networking connections with them, delete their phone number. If it's deffinately finished the only way is total shutoff.

Also despite it being a good saying, the best way to get over someone is not to get under someone....imo.....at least not in the first week post break up

[neoboy259]

Smash her sister/best mate.

[EDDIE M0NS00N]

Smash her sister/best mate.

Or failing that, get over to amsterdam for a good sex sesh, or fill your bandwidth with as much porn as you can