Originally posted by Sketcz
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When I think a woman is flirting with me, I assume she's just being friendly.
She could be fluttering her eyelashes, twiddling her hair round her fingers, brushing my arm, caressing my balls, or any of the 'Ten signs she's DEFINITELY wants you inside of her RIGHT NOW' that magazines like Men's Health often list.
Regarding the bank situation, asking the woman out wasn't sexual harassment. You weren't the first to ask her out, and you weren't the last. You misread the situation. It happens. You definitely didn't move on. By moving on, DT meant going back to the bank as if nothing had happened. You had your brother pretend to be you. That's not moving on.
However, you need to understand that the way in which you dealt with - and later dissected - that interaction is concerning. And that's putting it mildly.
As for women in general, you're trying too hard to work them out, to solve them like an equation. Don't do that. Stop trying to be what you think they want you to be. Be yourself and be patient. Don't become a Jew, ffs. Life isn't a Calypso and you're not offering yourself as a sacrifice to Mel Gibson. Mind you, Mel Gibson knows what women want. He even made a documentary about it. So there are worse methods, I guess.
If you want to ask women out, you need to think like a telemarketer. Make contact; try some lines; abort mission if going nowhere; rinse and repeat. That's probably why Dan got annoyed at you listing his failures. He doesn't stop to ponder what went wrong. He just keeps going until he hits the jackpot. And, given the odds, that's bound to happen at some point. It's like the monthly KPIs I had to hit as a recruiter. Stop to dwell on the failures and they'll hang over you.
Also, take women down off that pedestal. Women are just women. There are good ones and bad ones. You've been unlucky, sure. But you're like the guy who's bought three 360s in a row with the red ring of death. "I'm done with Micro$haft! I'm buying a PS3!", he cries. But those of us who had one or less 360s with the red ring of death say "Your experience is just an anomaly!". His fourth 360 may have been the one to last for all eternity but he's already moved to PS3. Speaking of which, have you considered dudes? You might have better luck and much fewer guessing games. But go top to avoid your own red ring of death.
Also, if you have Netflix, check out Daniel Sloss' standup show called Jigsaw. He shares many of your fears. It might put things in perspective for you.
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