The Relationship Thread-Good, Bad or Indifferent.

[JSR]

So this super cute girl sent me a message on one of the dating sites I'm registered on (Yeah, I'm paying a monthly fee to SEVERAL dating sites. By several I mean 2). She said "Hi [smiley face]". What the hell do I reply to that? Looked at her profile to see if there's something there I could say something smart/charming/insightful about, but there really isn't. Looked up a few "online dating tips" pages, but they pretty much just say not to be a chauvinistic pig. So far I have: "Hi there! [winking face] How's it going?" ...

[Guts]

"Hi? Is that it? Just "hi"? What the f*** am I supposed to answer to that? At least put on a bit of an effort if you want some of this! [flex muscles emote] Do you have any good-looking friends who'd like to experiment? LOL"

[JSR]

Sorry, I already replied, otherwise I would definitely have used that.

I asked her what she'd done this weekend. She replied that she had hung out with friends, and then asked what I had done. I'm afraid this will turn into a patter; I ask a question to get to know her and actually get somewhere, she answers the question with "how about you?" on the end, whereupon I have to come up with a new question to drag the conversation along. Damn this stuff is hard.

[Guts]

Yeah, on a more serious note, I'd imagine getting to know a person for real online is pretty hard (maybe impossible) so I guess my advice would be to meet her in real life if you both are interested (and if it's possible) ASAP. But at the same time you shouldn't appear too eager either. Yeah, it's hard.

[egparadigm]

If it's hard don't bother, I'd say. Probably not a good sign.

[JSR]

The main reason it's hard is due to me, and the way I overthink every aspect of human interaction. So I'm willing to endure for a little while to see whether or not it will pay off.

Edit:
THE PLOT THICKENS!

So since I've been online on the dating site for the first time in ages, this other girl sent me a message now. She said that she really dug my profile, and that she would like to go on a car trip with me (I explain in my profile that I enjoy spontaneous road trips). And I was hoping to have a quiet sunday with no fuss...

[vanpeebles]

Sounds like you're in for a spot of dogging

[kryss]

Let us know when you either a) wake up in a bath of ice with no kidneys, b) wake up with a fake heart and a dying battery and have to run around like a mad thing charging yourself up. Looking like Jason Statham would help with that last one.

[EDDIE M0NS00N]

I'm thinking the same as Kryss. You haven't been on the site for a while & then get 2 replys within 24 hrs? Doesn't sound like a coincidence to me mate. Looks like some mad proffesor is short of his middleman for a human centipede experiment

[fishbowlhead]

The main reason it's hard is due to me, and the way I overthink every aspect of human interaction. So I'm willing to endure for a little while to see whether or not it will pay off.

Edit:
THE PLOT THICKENS!

So since I've been online on the dating site for the first time in ages, this other girl sent me a message now. She said that she really dug my profile, and that she would like to go on a car trip with me (I explain in my profile that I enjoy spontaneous road trips). And I was hoping to have a quiet sunday with no fuss...

But be extremely cautious of people wanting to go on a road trip straight away. Tell her you cant because of work commitments at the moment but would love to meet up for a drink and get to know each other.

[Guts]

Yeah, I agree. It does sound pretty weird that a woman would go to a road trip with an unknown man she met on the internet just like that. Could be professional criminals looking for an easy GTA. Meeting up in a public place for coffee let's you see what kind of potential nutter she is.

[egparadigm]

Alternatively she might be just that: a fantasist. Meet for a drink first, a lot less stressful I would think.

[charlesr]

Sorry, I already replied, otherwise I would definitely have used that.

I asked her what she'd done this weekend. She replied that she had hung out with friends, and then asked what I had done. I'm afraid this will turn into a patter; I ask a question to get to know her and actually get somewhere, she answers the question with "how about you?" on the end, whereupon I have to come up with a new question to drag the conversation along. Damn this stuff is hard.

"Life's short - let's go ahead and meet up. Would you prefer Friday or Saturday?" (closed question ftw).

[kryss]

http://www.facetsofthefabulous.com/2012/10/how-to-get-a-girlfriend-by-christmas-a-real-one-by-elle-te/

Thoughts?

[dvdx2]

http://www.facetsofthefabulous.com/2...ne-by-elle-te/

Thoughts?

Cobblers...

You are going to meet lots and lots of women, before you find the right one. Its nothing to do with your 'prep', its all to do with being accepted for who you are.

If you find yourself changing your personality for a women, the cracks will appear within 3 dates.

Be yourself, relax and enjoy the date. Dont have mega expectations as you will rarely achieve them. If you click, you click
Many women have absoutely zero interest in long term r'ships on those sites and are only looking for a daily ego boost. Protect yourself from time wasters. Get the faintest whiff and move on.