The Relationship Thread-Good, Bad or Indifferent.

[Richie_uk]

thanks for the company....

just seems like she flicked a switch and turned on me...said some of the most horrible things about me and my family..iam totally shell shocked...

[Lyris]

Sorry to hear that, Richie.

I had a lovely valentines...

until I got the text once I got home, asking if we could just be friends. The reason? Because her jealous flatmate, who she once had a casual fling with, isn't happy that we're together, and is sad, and she doesn't want him to be sad.

It's such a shame that there can be two people who get on so well, I can do everything right, and it can STILL get messed up, all thanks to a jealous man-child. Tragic.

[Richie_uk]

Dude, thats totally ****...just because "man child" cant grow up, if they are not together he need to step aside...sometimes i feel like Iam living in a teenage world...some people seem to be stuck in that era emotionally ! what happend to being adult...

and to top it off...a text message...what happend to talking to people....

*Gets off soap box*

[kryss]

My valentines is a bottle of wine and Last Story on wii. **** dating.

We're right there with you richie. You are not alone.

[Richie_uk]

Thanks for the Kind words Kryss.

sounds like you've got the right idea mate, sounds like just what I need after tonight !

[Mayhem]

Flip... shoddy way to dump you there Richie... hope all comes good in the future.

[charlesr]

Valentine's is pretty popular for dumping I think.

And Lyris, dump by text.... she clearly doesn't give a monkeys.
I very much doubt that's the real reason either, unless she's a mentalist ??

[teddymeow]

I spent Valentines doing my annual stock take at work. Kept my mind off of the fact that "she" (was going to use something stronger but them remembered it's a public forum) was probably having a wonderful time with her new "boyfriend" (again, public forum).

But, my day was brightened by the fact that he's had to go away on a course for the week and she was whinging about not seeing him on Valentines Day.

Excuse me but;

hahahahahahaha...ahem...

So, yeah, not a bad day.

Richie, sorry to hear that mate. It's still a bit raw for me but you will start feeling better. This place has helped me massively over the past couple of months. Take it steady and you'll find yourself in a better place when you're ready.

Kryss & I got your back!!

[Silvergun X]

Just keep your most decent mates close to you and enjoy yourselves with them like you normally would, you'll find it takes your mind off things brilliantly. Works for me.

[Richie_uk]

Thanks for all the kind words and support lads, Iam spending some time with my mates this week going to try my best to keep busy and not to let my emotions get the better of me. Iam determined iam not going to be down...it?s a new year and I don?t want to start it off wallowing in self pity.

[Lyris]

Valentine's is pretty popular for dumping I think.

And Lyris, dump by text.... she clearly doesn't give a monkeys.
I very much doubt that's the real reason either, unless she's a mentalist ??

Unless I'm in a stage of denial, I don't think either of those are the case. I guess, yes, she is pretty crazy. It would have inevitably fallen apart anyway.

I should get a forehead tattoo reading "RATIONAL PEOPLE ONLY PLEASE".

[NemesiS]

I am actually quite enjoying the freedom of being on my own. I can watch what I want, eat what I want when I want, wander around the flat in my boxers, go out whenever, come home whenever, flirt outrageously without fear of a telling off.

Can't you do all these things anyway??

Me and my (now ex) missus split up in November after 8 years. All the wedding plans for this year had to be cancelled and i nabbed back the engagement ring (cost me over ?2k) so i can flog it if i need some money in the future.

I was sad for about a week i think and then just drew a line under it and moved on. There is absolutely no point in dwelling on it or wallowing in self recrimination by blaming yourself or thinking you should have done things this way or that. **** happens and its almost always usually for the best.

Tbf, me and her had been living almost single lives for the last 18 months since coming back from Dubai so the only thing that has changed is the circumstance or the fact we are not an item. We still have a house which is now for sale and live in separate rooms, lol. But i never see her. We're like passing ships, if i see her about once a fortnight if we happen to bump into one another.

I've been through this before tho after along relationship ship so knew what to expect and i had all the intentions of going out on the pull with my mates and enjoying being single again.

But i ended up chatting up one of our lawers at the unofficial xmas do. I did quite fancy her during the time i've been working here at the company but did nothing as i was seeing my ex. But i got wind she was really interested so decided to go for it. We started emailing each other over the holidays and it went from there. We've got loads in common and as i'd known her for 18 months or so, and it was obviously a lot easier than just meeting someone in a bar etc. Been seeing her 6 weeks and just had a weekend in London and its going great

[cutmymilk]

Amen dudes. I got dumped by "the one" a few months ago. Just met someone new, had first date last night which could have been weird with it being valentines but wasnt.

I did the same thing - sad for a week then just went "whats next?". Its exciting if you let it be.

[teddymeow]

Can't you do all these things anyway??

Now I can yes as proved by the spaghetti bolognese I made at 1am the other day!

I think the main difference between me and a lot of the people posting in this thread is that I am married and in the process of getting divorced whereas others are in long term relationships without the legal ties.

This is why I can't just draw a line under it, go out, get pissed and shag some random woman I meet. There are some pretty serious legal ramifications if I were to do that and get found out. If my estranged wife wants to run around with a new guy while legally still married then do be it - I won't do anything that could jeopardise my position of holding the moral high ground and my solicitor agrees with me.

Once I have decree absolute it's game on!!

[averybluemonkey]

Not being funny but if you can get over someone in a week, then it wasn't love.