The Relationship Thread-Good, Bad or Indifferent.

[Mayhem]

Nope Just plain ol' 'Little Pikey Kate...'

In all honesty, you don't come across like that at all. To me, at least, based on what I've read on here, and seeing the last few posts. Yes, people make mistakes, but for you, once you realised that something was a mistake, you did something about resolving it. Too many people sit there, doing nothing to change a situation, merely thinking it will get better, when it won't. So that definitely gets my respect. And you definitely express yourself far better than many people who would be labelled in that bracket.

[kryss]

Yeah, should definitely have contacted her sooner. But being taught romance by hollywood movies made me think I should be casual, laidback and not come on too strong. So that was very wise on my part. We talked briefly (over texts) about maybe being able to meet sometime this week, maybe meeting halfway or something. I could probably drive up to her (about 3hr drive each way plus 20quid ferry fare each way) to meet her, but she lives with her parents, so I would much prefer her coming to my place. As I'm quite proud of my apartment I would also like the extra "charm points" I hope it might get me. I even suggested driving her all the way home if she manages to come down her someday, but with school, work and two dogs, it might be hard for her to arrange. Trying very hard to not read this whole incident as a sign that it wasn't meant to be or anything like that, and hoping she doesn't either, as I have become quite fond of her.

Fader: She didn't have my number. :P

Edit:
Pikate, there's no overshare, only undershare.

I've tried being a little more confident, I've tried being a little more casual. It made no difference in the end so I just stick to being myself these days, and if a woman isn't attracted to me so be it. It's no worse being friend-zoned that not trying at all.

There was a post a few pages back which pointed out quite honestly that we are influenced by media to try and make our interactions the same as those we observe - which is next to impossible and just not right. I'm 4 weeks off getting back into university courses and will hopefully stay there for the next 3+ years (eventually quitting my job to study to the extreme with any luck...and a lotto win), and I'm sure as hell not going to be pretending to be anyone I'm not. Whatever happens, happens. Fate/Destiny/higher powers won't be helping me and I know that, but hard work and determination will. If I meet someone, great. If I don't, oh well, maybe in another few months down the line. I don't need to be with anyone to be content with my life, but I would like to share it with someone (other than my cat).

Crazy old cat man is always an option

Oh and it would be my 4th anniversary on April 30th, but instead I'm celebrating being single for 23 months. PAR-TAY!

Now to go buy some more games...

[Dazzyman]

Always be yourself m8. I've been there done that and got the blumming tshirt in the past with the dating scene and it means jot. The right lass likes u for u, u don't need to pretend or be something you aren't around her. You just haven't met the one, the one u both get the instant spark and then get to know each other. Just never be too keen tho and I mean by that she'd loads of messages from the off or gushing over her. Just relax and take it easy. Friend zone stuff well you will fall into it for no reason other than there is no spark for the other person, got nowt to do with getting to know someone for even a year, they either fancy you or they don't. Me and wife knew practically everything about each other before we met, got all the skeletons out etc... Really helped us. I was very laid back bout it, was leaving dating scene and told her night we spoke so gave her my number and email I thought to scare her off tbh, but at time did t give a crap about dating, liked who I was and stuff em that don't. She texted me next morning and we never stopped talking. Met 5 days later and we ain't been apart since apart from hospital and one week for her performing arts exams. I just think its less about trying and more about letting things happen. My wife doesn't give a **** that I'm in a wheelchair and serious heart condition, she doesn't see those things as she loves me. She wants kids next,well we both do, but we are identical in our lives, we're like bloody twins and want the same things and enjoy same hobbies, tv prog etc...it's just so easy and natural, not like relationships I had before which were hard work and never felt 100 myself like I do now . A wife that nags if we can get a 3d telly at weekend so we can play gears of war together in 3d...erm that's a keeper lol!

[kryss]

Thought I'd found "the one" a couple of times but it was just me.

[MrKirov]

So yeah, moving in with the missus for the first time.

Both scary and costly!

[kryss]

Just don't expect sex "on tap" and you'll be fine.

[MrKirov]

After this long I don't get that now!! Haha

[speedlolita]

Quite the opposite for me.. Have to beat her off with a stick.

[kryss]

Not jealous much here... :O

[Skull Commander]

Quite the opposite for me.. Have to beat her off with a stick.

I would rephrase that one if I were you...

[kryss]

Just put the batteries in first.

[randombs]

[Dazzyman]

Did something really stupid last night . Was celebrating a year of getting away from my abusive (mentally and for money, used to lock me in the room and house and used to have to restrain my so called mother from hitting me) natural mother and step father, we had to flee the area and go around with the police to retrieve mt motability car as they wouldn't hand it back and I had to make a statement incase I take action in future (give me a heart attack at moment tho so can't be done). Just got overwhelmed by it all especially with finding my dad after 24yrs in Jan and it being great. I'm lucky as I'm me now not a scared shell and Viki been with me every step of the way, she's the one who saw it all and said the awful words I didn't want to hear your being abused, she should and could have walked away as they tried all sorts with her to split us up as they wanted my direct payments of 1200 a month to not look after me, big cash cow (we don't have anything to do with social services and don't care about money, Viki does it for free cas she loves me).

Anyway we decided to have a takeaway curry, I was in pain so had morphene and my pain killers which had been upped that day then stupidly got drunk which I never do as was freaking a bit and felt sick. Viki went to bed bout 4am and was going to put tea in microwave when I blacked out on sofa, she woke me up at half 8 terrified as I was sat bolt upright with my glasses on.

Lesson learned and booze solves nowt!

[Neon Ignition]

Too true Other than the occasional single drink now and then I've not drank proper for about a year and a half now. It's amazing how much you don't miss it. It does mean I have zero tolerance these days when it comes to getting drunk though

[kryss]

Would technically be my 4th wedding anniversary today. I'm celebrating 23 months of being single and 9.75 months of sobriety instead.