Im in a mixed relationship - worth the hassel??

[jimmbob]

Respecting the cuisine is probably the kicker here take note.

[spagmasterswift]

I think if its meant to be then the proof of the pudding will be in the eating!

[Akihabara]

What if you would break up, and you would go to a party a couple of months later seeing her with another white dude?

That would suck now wouldn't it...

[spagmasterswift]

What, like if he went to put his coat in the bedroom, turned on the lights and...?

[abigsmurf]

Are they deeply religious? You need to be able to differentiate between typical "he's not good enough for my little princess" in-laws and "For her to marry a non-muslim is to betray her family".

The former will work out in time, her happiness will take priority and they'll either accept you or grin and bear it for her sake. May require uncomfortable 'bonding'

However the latter can get really nasty. That could cause immense hurt to her that will never go away (but you could argue with a family like that, that's perhaps enivitable). You'll need to judge how much the family would really act.

Ultimately you have to decide: do you love her more than you hate the family stuff? Does she love you enough to put up with family problems? Do you think things will peak then get better as they accept?

Those are the issues you have to consider. Only you know if it's truly worth it.

I will say though, if there's an arranged marriage issue and the parents are hardline in their approach to it. You need to have a big chat with her and get her in contact with charities and bodies that will protect her, regardless of if you continue or end the relationship. Families like that deserve no loyalty.

[gamez]

I do want to marry her, shes great, but we have talked about what happens after...will the stress be too much.

Met a few family members on the face of it they are fine with me. I know at home she is getting a lot of pressure from her parents to leave....

We've coped 4 years maybe its meant to be

Cheers for all the advice....

[spagmasterswift]

We've done our part, now post pics!!!

[112]

you mentioned her family stressing her to leave...... as in leave the nest? the country? or the relationship?

Im not 100% sure if Legendary was intentionally joking with the cuisine part, but lol all the same........

112

[Kongster]

If she is worth it, then weather the storm.

Ntsc-uk - a great place for relationship advice

[MisterBubbles]

course its worth the hassle relationships are never easy and relationships with families can be strained if your black,white,brown,yellow or whatever colour martians are these days, but its up to you and your woman to convince the family that your worthy of their daughter, must be a website somewhere with advice,people shared experiences etc, then go on a charm offense with the family and if that fails go it alone just the 2 of you maybe then the family will see your serious, maybe their testing you now, i you really love her HOW can you leave?


yes watch out Dear Diedre where after your job

[charlesr]

Have you asked her or your parents if there's a problem? Point blank? Then at least you'll know. (don't do this)

[Kongster]

yes watch out Dear Diedre where after your job

LOL

[spagmasterswift]

Sleep with her mother!

[MisterBubbles]

is their a post of agony uncle that we can all apply for/or agony aunt just to be PC ( is there woman on here? )
thinking of posts redundant,should i take a 10K drop in wages,women are the evils,and the biggest heartache of all ...my 360's fecked again to RROD ( just kidding Boris )

[importaku]

Hehe some days this place well gets like Trisha Innit.



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