Im in a mixed relationship - worth the hassel??

[Rick]

My wife is of chinese origin, her Dad allways hated me because i was white.
He at one point gave her an ultimatum. Stop seeing me or he won' talk to her again.

10 years later we are married with a son.

He's come round to the idea now and couldn't be happier.

**** what they say. They will be the ones missing out. Not you.

[Extra Terrestrial]

I though this was another one of those relationships thread.

I'm currently seeing (and f*cking) a 39 year old woman who is married and has two children while I am a 21 year old guy with no chains attached.

I should feel guilty but... I don't.

[Spatial]

Hehe some days this place well gets like Trisha Innit.



"today we discuss mixed relationships, followed by baby daddy special"

All you need is Trisha

[MisterBubbles]

wheres Jeremy Kyle??
and an episode of Jerry Springer ......
next we meet a guy who burned down his house and went postal all because his 360 RROD i can see it now

[Golgo]

Families are meddling ****ers, aren't they?! Especially families of religious zealots.

[paul]

As in race, im thinking ahead saving a bigger heartbreak for both...

Im white shes asian

Typical parents attitude - what will people say?

In my experience, people learn to accept it I'm Asian and two of my cousins are in mixed relationships Initially you'll find people will find it difficult to accept, but in the long run find they do if you two are committed enough to each other. After all that's whats important, right?

[paul]

course its worth the hassle relationships are never easy and relationships with families can be strained if your black,white,brown,yellow or whatever colour martians are these days, but its up to you and your woman to convince the family that your worthy of their daughter, must be a website somewhere with advice,people shared experiences etc, then go on a charm offense with the family and if that fails go it alone just the 2 of you maybe then the family will see your serious, maybe their testing you now, i you really love her HOW can you leave?


yes watch out Dear Diedre where after your job

And if aforementioned charm offensive fails but with hilarious consequences, you could always write a screenplay, in the style of Meet the Parent / Fockers, etc. Win win, either way.

[paul]

I do want to marry her, shes great, but we have talked about what happens after...will the stress be too much.

Met a few family members on the face of it they are fine with me. I know at home she is getting a lot of pressure from her parents to leave....

We've coped 4 years maybe its meant to be

Cheers for all the advice....

Maybe if you've coped for four years, to ditch it all would be a shame, no?

[paul]

Are they deeply religious? You need to be able to differentiate between typical "he's not good enough for my little princess" in-laws and "For her to marry a non-muslim is to betray her family".

He didn't say she was muslim, did he? You know most of us Asians aren't...

[wakka]

Just respect her cuisine and everything else will follow. Apologies if someone already posted this, didn't read thread.

[Daragon]

Did I miss something here? Is the cuisine thing some sort of joke?

I always find emotional blackmail helps. Have you ever tried the "Do you love your *insert relative here*? If so, do you want her to be happy" line with those who are against the relationship? It might sound like a difficult thing to say, but 9 times out of 10 it works. On the very rare occasion that it doesn't, that's when the old "It's me or the family" line comes out...

[kryss]

If you're living in the UK and NOT Asia isn't it nigh-on inevitable that you might end up in a mixed relationship? Her parents NEVER considered that?

[Peekay]

Asian as in what dude? American type of Asian or UK type of Asian?

112

Heh, joker. I know what you mean but it still sounds funny...

[paul]

If you're living in the UK and NOT Asia isn't it nigh-on inevitable that you might end up in a mixed relationship? Her parents NEVER considered that?

It works both ways with English parents disapproving of such relationships as well...it's not one way backwardness you know.

[noobish hat]

It sort of is.