The Relationship Thread-Good, Bad or Indifferent.

[booth83]

I know who "the one" is for me, have done for years now, about 4 i think, the problem is she was already in a new relationship at the time we met and my feelings for her developed over the first year that i knew her, we actually came to be best mates at work. she's since left to be a teacher, and she's still in that same relationship now and they have just moved in together, they seem very happy. I never mentioned anything to her because she was happy with her fella, who was actually a decent bloke and i think it would've caused nothing but upset, awkwardness and maybe even ruined our friendship, but there was a time when things just got really difficult not being able to say anything, and i became, from her point of view, very moody. i think this dampened our friendship but we still talk occasionally on facebook or msn (our lives are pretty much seperate now so never meet or anything) and i'd say still pretty good mates. i'm over it now but would still take her like a shot if by miracle there was an opportunity. i still wonder though if she had any idea, everyone else around me could see it a mile off but i honestly don't know.

Anyway sorry to drag it off topic by throwing this random info in there, but i've never mentioned it openly before and reading this thread somehow made me think about it and think f**k it, tell someone, even if it's a bunch of anonymous people on the internet.

[JazzFunk]

^That's horrible, man. I don't know, sometimes it's better to cut ties completely rather than stay in touch, years of stress and longing don't do you that much good(!)

[nintastic]

Well I was at work yesterday and no word of a lie , the ex I havn't seen for 6 years popped into store, I told the security guys to keep an eye on her and her, I presumed new partner. They asked why , and I said that bit@h nicked all my furniture 6 years ago when she upped and left!!! I then proceded to pray and thank the Lord as everything happens for a reason as she was ,I'll be kind , one big assed ugly gaunt looking lesbo !

[Baseley09]

You turned a chick lesbo?

Don't worry, one of my friends did the same I think it's quite common.

[nintastic]

Phew thats good to know

[EDDIE M0NS00N]

You turned a chick lesbo?

Don't worry, one of my friends did the same I think it's quite common.

Yeah & then they change their mind again when it suits them

[nintastic]

Yeah & then they change their mind again when it suits them

Abit like my taste in games then !

[Ady]

I know who "the one" is for me, have done for years now, about 4 i think, the problem is she was already in a new relationship at the time we met and my feelings for her developed over the first year that i knew her, we actually came to be best mates at work. she's since left to be a teacher, and she's still in that same relationship now and they have just moved in together, they seem very happy. I never mentioned anything to her because she was happy with her fella, who was actually a decent bloke and i think it would've caused nothing but upset, awkwardness and maybe even ruined our friendship, but there was a time when things just got really difficult not being able to say anything, and i became, from her point of view, very moody. i think this dampened our friendship but we still talk occasionally on facebook or msn (our lives are pretty much seperate now so never meet or anything) and i'd say still pretty good mates. i'm over it now but would still take her like a shot if by miracle there was an opportunity. i still wonder though if she had any idea, everyone else around me could see it a mile off but i honestly don't know.

Anyway sorry to drag it off topic by throwing this random info in there, but i've never mentioned it openly before and reading this thread somehow made me think about it and think f**k it, tell someone, even if it's a bunch of anonymous people on the internet.

All I will say is that there is no point crying over spilt milk.

She may have been "the one" in some respects, but there WILL be others. There's a big world out there with lots of different kinds of people in it.

[EvilBoris]

*sighs*

I think I can add myself as the next member on here to be told that 'I no longer wish to be together with you'.



That's hard enough for me as it is however, she decided to say it when I am backpacking for one year (and away from home) as well as it being one day before Valentine's Day (I have already posted her a card...) and worse of all, she ended the conversation by saying, 'I would still like to remain friends with you'.

I think that last line is worse than the 'I no longer wish to be together with you' line.

It is midday here in Melbourne and I only wish she told me last night so I could have consumed so, so much beer that it makes this pain I am feeling go away...

I have been with my fair share of girls but she was the one. I think I almost verged on loving her sometimes... This pain I am feeling is unbearable - I can barely breathe sometimes.



My little big adventure no longer feels special anymore...

It's not this one still is it? Maybe it wasn't meant to be...

I though this was another one of those relationships thread.

I'm currently seeing (and f*cking) a 39 year old woman who is married and has two children while I am a 21 year old guy with no chains attached.

I should feel guilty but... I don't.

[Resonance]

I know for myself that sometimes I have developed really strong feelings for someone because subconsciously I wanted to be in love and they were the closest thing on the far horizon that I could see. Those feeling were so strong that I ignored the obvious signs that this person was not so great, but instead projected my own desires on to someone that was not who I wanted them to be.

I think the important thing to do with many of these heart breaks is to look back and take note of what you could have done differently. It is a bitter pill to swallow, but there were probably signs of what was coming, but for whatever reason, you ignored them.

[Daragon]

It's not this one still is it? Maybe it wasn't meant to be...

Right, well there goes the last of the sympathy I had for TA!

Whether or not she was the one in question, people who involve themselves in other peoples relationships in such a way are the lowest form of scum as far as I'm concerned.

[DeathAdder]

lower than people who get married and cheat on their spouses?

[Daragon]

Well it goes without saying, especially if the bint had kids, but surely TA should have realized that he was being a bit of a nob himself and called off the affair before it escalated.

[Paulos G]

TA? Don't you mean ET?

[DeathAdder]

Whilst he's not exactly angel of the year, I would say the middle-aged woman, who had made the commitment to her husband should have realised she was a lying, cheating bitch herself, especially given the potential trauma to HER kids, and called off the affair. Her behaviour is far worse than ET's, IMO. Her husband won't see it like that, but he is unlikely to be objective.

But you're entitled to your opinion too, of course.