The Relationship Thread-Good, Bad or Indifferent.

[Guts]

Jesus Christ lads, 73 pages of whinging about women. Let's stick to the man plan:

Woman cheats on you: Dump her, find another.
Woman dumps you: Tell her it's fine, you only ever slept with her to get closer to her best mate/ mother/ sister. Find another.
Woman has constant mood swings: Dump her, find another.
Any other crap whatsoever you're not happy with: Dump her, find another.

Are we getting the general idea?

I'm more talking about the bat**** mental types, you know the ones. Everyone goes through highs and lows, but someone throwing crockery and cutlery at you because you left the toilet seat up is probably not a keeper in my eyes.

You sir, are my hero.

[EDDIE M0NS00N]

So judging by the advice thats being handed out on here, what is your opinion on this:

We sat down to watch Largo Winch. There was a scene about 10 mins in where Largo ends up bedding a woman he's only just met. 1 scene is basically just the womans arse moving back & forth with some slow romantic music in the background. The scene has obviously been done so that the viewer notices that she has a large mole or small tattoo on 1 cheek. You know the type of scene, where its obvious that the camera wants you to notice that particular part because its gonna crop up later in the film.
Later in the film Largo meets up with this girl again. Shes waiting for a masseuse but Largo walks in & tells her that he recognises 1 part of her body especially (running his hands down to her arse).
I mention "oh yeah because she had some kind of mark on her arse", to which I suddenly get the cold shoulder from my missus. You know what I mean - arms folded, turns away from me, short sharp replies, doesnt want to cwtch etc. I sit there wondering what the hell is going on. I ask her whats wrong, & all I get is the word "nothing".
I confront her about the arse bit (cos it couldnt have been anything else). I was right. She now believes that I'm some kind of sexist pig because I noticed the arse part, despite the fact that there was nothing other than the arse on screen. I told her to stop being so silly. We talked for about a minute about it. I told her that if thats the way she thinks about me then thats her problem not mine. If she'd said the same about a guys arse then I would'nt have reacted like she did.

By now we're sitting in silence, & I'm getting more & more annoyed & wondering wether I should just leave now (i've had a tough wk in work which hasnt helped tbh). In the end its pretty obvious I should go because she's yawning, making excuses to go to bed even tho she doesnt need to get up early. Was going to stay over but thats not gonna happen now as there was no way I was gonna sleep in the same bed in that kind of mood.
So I go. Its pretty obvious that I aint even gonna get a peck on the cheek cos the doors already open. I say "is that it then? no kiss?". She umms & aaaas so I just told her to forget it & walked out.

And btw the biggest mistake was watching such a crap film!!

[Colin]

Dump her, find another. Man plan.

[Decider-VT]

despite the fact that there was nothing other than the arse on screen.

Ah, the good old "complete rejection of logic to support an absolutely pointless argument" situation...

[prinnysquad]

Where do you keep digging up these nutjobs from, Eddie?

[EDDIE M0NS00N]

Well its good to know that I'm not just being an ignorant dick about all of this. Thanks guys was starting to lose me marbles for a bit there.

Ah, the good old "complete rejection of logic to support an absolutely pointless argument" situation...

Yeah theres been quite a few of those moments. You cant say anything for fear of it being twisted into something totally impossible to comprehend.

Where do you keep digging up these nutjobs from, Eddie?

Prinny, they start out all nice n sweet n innocent, then after a few wks their inner monster just cant hide away anymore.

Note to self: The Shady Brain Asylum is NOT a good place to pick up the ladies anymore!!

[kryss]

Latent bisexual in denial. Get and her best (female) friend drunk then sit back and watch. She noticed the arse thing but she's embarrassed that she did and took it out on you.

case[/closed]

[Ady]

Well bisexual women are ten a penny these days...

[NW2013]

Dump her, find another. Man plan.

That would make a good tattoo.

[teenagewasteland]

Wow. That is complete nuts.

[EDDIE M0NS00N]

Well bisexual women are ten a penny these days...

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What really annoys me is that she is 36 yrs old. I know she's had some problems at home when she was younger & she's been given the boot a few times but if she cant trust me or keeps turning every comment or reaction I make into something negative then she is never gonna find a bloke to settle down with. I learnt big time from my past that you have to talk to each other in order to sort things out, but its like trying to get blood out of a stone with her sometimes.
If she was between 17 & 25 then maybe I'd understand this nonsense, but she's not.

It was my birthday last weds & she spent quite a bit on me (nice big birthday cake, proffesional drawing pencils & sketch book, a huge fat book on still life drawing, expensive chocs & Dead Space 2 on 360) & then she goes & acts like this!

Did I mention that she's also Polish? Dunno if that makes a difference. Maybe Kats can give me his 2 cents worth on the Polish ladies?

[Lyris]

That makes absolutely no sense at all.

Here's the latest on my situation. I set my Facebook status to "single" and she asked why. I thought because the relationship had ended? "Are you already looking for someone else? I'm not looking for any replacement to you anyway".

....Whaaa???

[nakamura]

I must admit I took Ikobos stance a few years ago and it paid dividends. I pretty much f*cked off any stupid tart who cared to moan about any little thing or extreme jealousy etc. I always used to be the nice sensitive guy who took it all and always saw the good, but now if its **** I would get out asap, no point being miserable.

Since meeting my wife that tactic has worked well, but I have encouraged her to do the same. If I piss her off, tell me. When we argue, it lasts five mins, we say what we have to say and move on.

There is no reason at all to be unhappy in a relationship if you talk to each other. Never let it boil over.

[Lyris]

Wise, wise words. Glad to hear that taking that stance works.

[prinnysquad]

My grandparents have a golden rule that if they're having an argument they never go to sleep without resolving it first. It means they can get up the next day with no daftness still on the boil. It must work - they've been married since the early 50s.