The Relationship Thread-Good, Bad or Indifferent.

[Lyris]

I finally managed to get some sense of closure from my situation. Basically, it transpired that, sure enough, although the flatmate nonsense played a part, it wasn't the only reason behind the breakup. It would have been a LOT easier if this had just been said in the first place.

I was hanging around her (or in her words, following her) at a party last night, which she didn't like. Well, of course I was. That's what happens when you have feelings for someone and have had no proper sense of closure. We can't just flip our feelings on and off with a switch.

Madness, total madness - but I'm glad I can start waking up in the morning feeling something other than sick again and finally just get back to being me. My only worry is that I'm really not sure what to do with relationships in the future. What doesn't kill you makes you stronger, but I wonder if I'm too fragile to make them worthwhile.

[kryss]

You'll be fine. Just don't jump into anything too soon.

[EDDIE M0NS00N]

We can't just flip our feelings on and off with a switch.

The funny thing is that you expect a woman to have these kind of feelings. However from the ppl I know/have met I find its men who cant just switch off how they feel in an instant, while women just forget you even existed.

[nakamura]

I don't think woman can forget. I just think they are much better at not showing feelings.

[toythatkills]

I'm in the Twilight Zone.

[kryss]

Men having feelings and women not? That's real life. *sob*

[toythatkills]

I once broke up with a girl and she cried for a week. I'm not even exaggerating. She phoned me up every day for a week and cried for hours at a time while I just sat there.

Not because I'm good or anything, she was just slightly unstable.

[Lyris]

Now THAT is creepy...

[Ady]

I once broke up with a girl and she cried for a week. I'm not even exaggerating. She phoned me up every day for a week and cried for hours at a time while I just sat there.

...and you answered the phone to that every day? After the first time, I would've just ignored the calls.

[toythatkills]

That would have made it worse.

[Neon Ignition]

Past the 1000th relationship post

To help introduce a bit of the 'indifferent' to the subject matter. In this relationship I'm in now I'm finding it a little fascinating how differently I'm taking the whole thing. With me ex it was very much a living in each others pockets situation and I think the break up and time single has, in hind sight, had a one major effect. I'm finding that I'm much more objective this time around and not very... I don't want to say clingy... just, like she's kept at arms length. It's not a lack of interest or anything like that but I think I'm just more aware and accepting this time around that it could end at any moment and my brain won't let me get into the position where it could devastate me if it did.

[Lyris]

It's sad, but I think we need to get to that position to avoid becoming demented due to all the f'd up people. Thinking more objectively, I wonder if what I wanted from a relationship just doesn't exist in the real world.

[nakamura]

I'm in the Twilight Zone.

[teddymeow]

Another visit to my Solicitor today. Another step closer to, dare I use the word, freedom.

I don't feel as bad this time as I did the last time I left his office. Probably a bit angry again as I saw that the cheques she's had to write so far have been signed by "him".

I cannot wait until I can go out, talk to a lady without fear of any comeback and be myself again. I remember that I used to be quite eloquent and talkative around the ladies but it's going to take me a while to get that confidence back up to a decent level.

Not long now.

[EDDIE M0NS00N]

That bird was fit wasnt she back then!!. Wonder what she looks like now?