The Relationship Thread-Good, Bad or Indifferent.

[Lyris]

Ack, this whole "be interested but don't make yourself too available" thing is hard work. Last saw the lady a week ago (she's busy as hell with weekday and weekend work and pretty knackered). I've been asking how she is and if she's about to obviously let her know I'm interested... and she seems to be too.

The ball's in her proverbial court, right?

[dvdx2]

Daters guide to what a women means; experience from 2 years on the dating scene.....

Constantly Too busy = not interested
Too knackered to see you = not interested
Not responding to texts = not interested
Changing date plans at the last minute = not interested
Not wanting too meet up after communicating for 3-5 days = not interested
Poor communication after a first date = not interested
Excuses and bs = guess what......??

If a woman wants to be with you, she will do none of the above.

Have some dignity and self respect - if you catch them jerking your chain, give em the heave ho, before they give you it....

[Lyris]

Meh, it's not total disinterest or lack of communication, just lack of any plans. I always worry it's me being insecure rather than them.

We'll see. You're right though, if they can't make time for you, screw 'em. I'm busy as hell and easily make room to see someone I'm into. Someone you have to keep reminding you're alive is no fun.

[dvdx2]

Yes mate,

If someone cant make time to see you, they re probably not interested

Move on to someone who can

Relationships take alot of time to build - people that are "too busy" will not be able to form a long lasting relationship

[Lyris]

We'll see... my patience is growing thin though. She's not the kind of person who really has her life together (late paying bills, late in general, you know the kind...weirdly endearing in a way but I guess this is the flip-side) so I guess I shouldn't be surprised. "Same ****, different day".

It seems all that anyone in this town does is get pissed and have one-night flings.

[Adrock]

We'll see... my patience is growing thin though. She's not the kind of person who really has her life together (late paying bills, late in general, you know the kind...weirdly endearing in a way but I guess this is the flip-side) so I guess I shouldn't be surprised. "Same ****, different day".

It seems all that anyone in the UK does is get pissed and have one-night flings.

Changed for accuracy

[Pikate]

Daters guide to what a women means; experience from 2 years on the dating scene.....

Constantly Too busy = not interested
Too knackered to see you = not interested
Not responding to texts = not interested
Changing date plans at the last minute = not interested
Not wanting too meet up after communicating for 3-5 days = not interested
Poor communication after a first date = not interested
Excuses and bs = guess what......??

If a woman wants to be with you, she will do none of the above.

Have some dignity and self respect - if you catch them jerking your chain, give em the heave ho, before they give you it....

And by "not interested" he means "interested in, possibly seeing, someone else but doesn't have the heart to tell you or isn't sure he's seriously interested so doesn't want to burn bridges with you". As women we are TERRIBLE for this. It's more cowardess than dishonesty but as soon as a guy shows interest that's unrequited he's seen as "clingy" by your average woman and then you're in a spiral of no-hope until the other guy turns out to be a douchbag. As a general rule though if you think she's great and worth pursuing so do 2-20 other guys so bare that in mind.

[Lyris]

That's not just women though, to be fair. I think we all keep our options open, right?

[dvdx2]

You'll know when you meet the right woman. You'll get full commitment, no bs, no mind games and she will want to be with you. Anything less, move on

[JazzFunk]

Daters guide to what a women means; experience from 2 years on the dating scene.....

Constantly Too busy = not interested
Too knackered to see you = not interested
Not responding to texts = not interested
Changing date plans at the last minute = not interested
Not wanting too meet up after communicating for 3-5 days = not interested
Poor communication after a first date = not interested
Excuses and bs = guess what......??

If a woman wants to be with you, she will do none of the above.

Have some dignity and self respect - if you catch them jerking your chain, give em the heave ho, before they give you it....

This is an excellent guide, despite it initially seeming quite cynical. If you bear them rules in mind, you can't go wrong, saves on a lot of hurt, dunnit?

Good stuff!

PS: I might do a guide on how to deal with POF bunny-boilers in the near future, once I'm out of the psych-ward*.

(*joke)

[Lyris]

This is an excellent guide, despite it initially seeming quite cynical. If you bear them rules in mind, you can't go wrong, saves on a lot of hurt, dunnit?

I guess you can't go wrong, but if you're anything like me you probably won't be having many relationships either! I'm just too busy for this crap

You'll know when you meet the right woman. You'll get full commitment, no bs, no mind games and she will want to be with you.

Hmm. I'll believe that when I see it

[JazzFunk]

Difficult, innit?! Too many bastard games!!!!!!

I find working together for long periods of time and becoming friends tends to be best, though it can take ages. At the mo, singletonism seems so f*cking groovy right now, I ran to the hills and saw the light!!!!!!!

PS: Will leave tautology in for added 'fun factor'.

[JazzFunk]

Ah, the POF guide begins:

1. Never fulfil an obligation if you're doing it out of politeness or your heart isn't really in it.

[Lyris]

Difficult, innit?! Too many bastard games!!!!!!

You know, I have a friend who's into all this "pick up" bull****. He's always lecturing me about how playing the "cocky funny" thing is what I should do to attract women. I couldn't do anything so fake, I mean, why the hell should you have to change yourself and put on some act just to find someone, right?

What's disheartening is that it actually seems to work... at least for awhile. I don't think he actually gets much happiness out of it... just phone numbers.

[kryss]

We'll see... my patience is growing thin though. She's not the kind of person who really has her life together (late paying bills, late in general, you know the kind...weirdly endearing in a way but I guess this is the flip-side) so I guess I shouldn't be surprised. "Same ****, different day".

It seems all that anyone in the English-speaking world does is get pissed and have one-night flings. Or is morbidly obese.

Fixed that for you.