The Relationship Thread-Good, Bad or Indifferent.

[Kit]

[fishbowlhead]

Well, another awesome update. Got shot down not once but twice by the same girl thanks to her friends convincing me to give it another go saying 'she's just shy'.



My mate tried to big me up the next day with this gem:

'women like men with a triangle shape. You don't have a triangle shape.'


I had another great 'get back out there!!' talk with Kat in which she said;

'awww we still think your fab luke and don't care how you look.'


I feel like John Merrick.


****ing hell.

Had pretty much the same thing, though with one of my sisters mates. She's an old friend of my sister and I ended up hanging out with her quite a bit leading up to my sisters wedding, doing errands, getting places ready and all the wedding stuff involved, we always have a laugh and get on quite well.

Everyone kept egging me on to ask her out, I said no for well over a month as I thought it would be weird seeing how long I've known her. Last week I finally gave in just to shut everyone up really. She text me back 3 days later saying it would be weird as she sees me as an older brother rather than a potential lover, plus doesn't want to cause problems with her friendship with my sister if things went sour, all fair points and probably for the best.


Morel of the story, go with your gut, if it doesn't feel right to you, it most probably isn't. First time I listened to other people over mine and it backfired.

[Kit]

Had pretty much the same thing, though with one of my sisters mates. She's an old friend of my sister and I ended up hanging out with her quite a bit leading up to my sisters wedding, doing errands, getting places ready and all the wedding stuff involved, we always have a laugh and get on quite well.

Everyone kept egging me on to ask her out, I said no for well over a month as I thought it would be weird seeing how long I've known her. Last week I finally gave in just to shut everyone up really. She text me back 3 days later saying it would be weird as she sees me as an older brother rather than a potential lover, plus doesn't want to cause problems with her friendship with my sister if things went sour, all fair points and probably for the best.


Morel of the story, go with your gut, if it doesn't feel right to you, it most probably isn't. First time I listened to other people over mine and it backfired.

Yes, I think I went too fast, came across as a pussy (needy) and was listening to other people too much - instead of drawing a line underneath it after getting the first kickback.

Still hurting a bit but it's lit a fire underneath me now as I don't want that to happen again.

Keep an eye on the fitness thread.

[fishbowlhead]

Why I didn't just tell people to stfu like I normally do I don't know. Probably something to do with a gorgeous single brunette with amazing legs, might of been that.

[EDDIE M0NS00N]

You made the fatal mistake of 'go with your c0ck' instead of 'go with your gut'

[charlesr]

Moral of the story, go with your gut, if it doesn't feel right to you, it most probably isn't. First time I listened to other people over mine and it backfired.

I suggest you tell her that you didn't fancy her anyway and it was just your friends egging you on*

*This is a joke.

[fishbowlhead]

I suggest you tell her that you didn't fancy her anyway and it was just your friends egging you on*

*This is a joke.

Its not a big deal in the end, no harm done and theres no awkwardness.

[Kit]

Women can not keep **** to themselves at all.

'trust me I'm here for you if you need to talk'

*TELLS ****ING EVERYONE YOUR BUSINESS DESPITE IT BEING MADE CLEAR IT'S PRIVATE*

[speedlolita]

That's why you you don't tell them.

[Kit]

How the **** has this just happened.

I think I've just been shotdown for a third time without my knowledge - can't people just let it be!!!!

I'm sure in years to come I'll laugh about this (or hang myself) but atm I'm just in wtf mode.

[fishbowlhead]

How the **** has this just happened.

I think I've just been shotdown for a third time without my knowledge - can't people just let it be!!!!

I'm sure in years to come I'll laugh about this (or hang myself) but atm I'm just in wtf mode.

Had a massive wtf moment yesterday too. Was speaking to my sister about her pal and her turning me down, she was actually quite surprised because of the way we act together, all good though with everything normal between us (her friend and I).

However turns out all the while I was asking for said friends number off my sister, one of her other mates was asking her for mine. This other girl and I get on like a house on fire, we used to party together almost on a weekly basis hitting clubs, going on bar crawls, we had some great times, though we lost touch on a daily basis due to both meeting long term partners. Both single now though.

Sometimes life just works itself out for you

[Kit]

Sometimes life just works itself out for you

I hope that happens for me, fishbowl. I really do.

I'm lonely as **** atm and repeatedly getting machine gunned into the ground d-day style is not doing my pride any good.

Very tempted to ask for an honest 'critique' from the girl.

*que me posting in this thread about getting shotdown for a fourth time*

[randombs]

Women can not keep **** to themselves at all.

'trust me I'm here for you if you need to talk'

*TELLS ****ING EVERYONE YOUR BUSINESS DESPITE IT BEING MADE CLEAR IT'S PRIVATE*

Amen to that. Also couples who do the same thing, thinking full disclosure means telling each other everything they're told.

My big bro does this with his missus. I don't, and neither does my gf. Secrets are secrets for a reason. I only speak about personal stuff with people who don't speak much (or at all) about others' personal stuff with me. That's my test.

A few years ago I was going out with some girl and two of our mutual friends were going through a rough patch as a couple. I knew why but she didn't:

Her: "You know what's going on with them - tell me."
Me: "They asked me not to tell anyone"
Her: "You can tell me. I won't tell anyone. Don't you trust me?"
Me: "I do, but I told them I won't tell anyone"
Her: "I can keep secrets!"
Me: "You're not listening. They asked me not to tell anyone and I agreed. If I tell you then I've broken my promise with them, haven't I?"
Her: "Fine, be like that..."

Seriously.

Also, to Kit and others on here having setbacks: You guys are inspirations. I spent my entire life being super scared to ask girls out. I'd wait for someone to show obvious interest in me before pursuing and I can count the number of times that's happened on one hand. And that's just the fingers. No need for the thumb!

[kryss]

Pretty much all of the above is why I've given up for the moment.

[randombs]

Is it possible to get so annoyed with women that you just decide to become gay instead?