The Relationship Thread-Good, Bad or Indifferent.

[nakamura]

So gay man often aren't bitchy or they don't gossip too much?

[EDDIE M0NS00N]

That's why you you don't tell them.

And then they complain that you don't open up to them or tell them anything

[gunrock]

Trouble is with being gay is that you have to fancy blokes, don't you? I don't think being in awe of Cloud in FFVII counts, does it?

[fuse]

Trouble is with being gay is that you have to fancy blokes, don't you? I don't think being in awe of Cloud in FFVII counts, does it?

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[J0e Musashi]

Pretty much all of the above is why I've given up for the moment.

You forget about MH3U.

[fishbowlhead]

Ive decided to become a Jedi, this negates becoming gay, or worrying about being in a relationship. Anyone is welcome, though you should bare in mind that im cold and dead inside like a shark, so could turn sith once i start hungering for more power

[sj33]

Just become a Buddhist. It's like being a Jedi, but without having to go through the lightsaber training.

[Colin]

I'll be the harsh one and say it, desperation isn't an attractive feature in a potential partner, either male or female. If you think being in that frame of mind that getting yourself a girlfriend is the answer to all your problems, then you need to have a rethink as you need to sort out bigger things issues in your life first. Also, if you're so, so desperate to be with someone, I'll tell you what's going to happen. The other person will know it, whether you think you're showing it or not, and they'll treat you like **** in one way or another. Basically, if you can't be happy with yourself as a person, then you've got absolutely no chance of maintaining a solid relationship.

[fishbowlhead]

I'll be the harsh one and say it, desperation isn't an attractive feature in a potential partner, either male or female. If you think being in that frame of mind that getting yourself a girlfriend is the answer to all your problems, then you need to have a rethink as you need to sort out bigger things issues in your life first. Also, if you're so, so desperate to be with someone, I'll tell you what's going to happen. The other person will know it, whether you think you're showing it or not, and they'll treat you like **** in one way or another. Basically, if you can't be happy with yourself as a person, then you've got absolutely no chance of maintaining a solid relationship.

Good, solid and very true advice. Unfortunately you can only learn this for yourself.

I'm fortunate in that I don't crave attention from anyone, I'm just not bothered about being on my own, if someone comes along then great, of if a situation arises and I think the girls worth the effort because the right signals are being shown, then I dive in. How ever, the thought of just myself never worries me, in fact I've achieved far more in my life when on my own than I ever would with a partner. Being single isn't as bad as some people think, it's all about state of mind and making the most out of every day.

[nakamura]

Colin is bang on. People need to be comfortable within themselves before they can really succeed in relationships with others. If you are full of self doubt then no doubt you will be paranoid in your relationships. People just need to learn to accept who they are and if they can't, have a look at what can be done about it, if anything can.

I want to highlight a fabled thing in dating called 'The Friend Zone'. What a brilliant little creation this is and a superbly polite way of saying to someone 'I like you but simply don't find you attractive'.
There is no such thing as the friend zone and no such thing as someone not wanting to go out with another person. If they liked that person enough, they would damn well take the risk.

[Kit]

[nakamura]

Also if a girl says no once, leave it there. You have let her know, if she wants you she will ask.

[Kit]

[MisterBubbles]

Was going to say the same as Colin. Another point doesn't anybody take time and woo a woman? Do a bit of winching before confessing undying love, no wonder their like see ya, don't wanna be with ya. Seems everybody wants to go to one date, lets be in a relationship, pretty sad. I was on my own for about 4 years, but i always believed it would work out and i'd find somebody i truelly loved if i took the time to really know them. And yup yer auld da was right, won't go to much into it, not my style, just to say enough, im moving to Germany in six weeks to start a new life.

[QualityChimp]

I used to date a half-German girl.

[hide]She only shaved one armpit[/hide]